Long ago I made a decision to change my life, I left my partner, I cut my hair short, I got a tattoo done, I enrolled to become an Heath Coach and I made a promise to myself: TO KEEP GROWING.
The members of my family know something about me that not everybody that meets me outside of my close circle immediately grasp and gets to understand, and it is probably the reason why all my relationships ended, all because I chose so, and it is that I get frustrated very easily by the lack of not doing. And in particular not doing from a mental point of view. I am a very introverted person with a massive need of alone and recharge time, so going out and partying or be social in general is not part of my DNA, but I love reading and having a project I am focusing on at all times. If I am not putting my all energies in some kind of project you can be sure I am accumulating frustrations, grumpy Mika mode is on and an emotional tsunami is on its way. I have always found challenging balancing all, spending time with the partner, working, focusing on my projects and have downtime for myself. Of course I couldn’t give up work and I didn’t want to give up my relationship, so the result has been giving up my projects and me time. When my little daughter arrived I felt the lowest I could. I couldn’t focus as I wanted on my relationship, I was working, I had no projects and not self care scheduled in or any downtime that was actually rewarding for me, plus an overwhelming baby to take care for with no help and I totally and utterly exploded. That is one of the reasons my relationship with the father of my daughter ended.
And that is why having a goal and a vision for yourself, plus some time that you commit to your own care, is so essential, especially if you are a mom, especially if you are an introverted mom.
When I moved house I promised myself to work on myself as much as I could, to catch my words and rephrase myself, to watch my feelings and not judge myself for having them, to be kind to myself, because at the end of the day I am alone and I am doing all I can.
At the moment I have half a day I send my daughter to nursery that I dedicate to my projects. At night time I read, I meditate and write my gratitude journal. Before going to work I stop at the gym and I train, and I do all the rest when my little angel is napping, like writing on this blog.
I would love to have more time off, not to relax, but to actually do more, read more, learn more, produce more, but at the moment this is all I have and I have to make it work.
One of the main things that helps is scheduling. I am still learning this art, and I am still adjusting as I go.
While she was napping I managed to cook, take pictures and write blog posts, so I will just have to be consistent and the results will come.
Here is what I whipped up today: a delicious bean salad with spicy miso paste dressing.
I actually stole the idea from a Wagamama dressing we used for a chicken salad, but it works wonders for beans and I used it with prawns as well. It is tangy, spicy, sweet, a perfect combo for a salad dressing. You will certainly love it.
- 1 tsp miso paste (or any other bean paste)
- 5 tbsp mayo ( I used the reduced fat one)
- 10 ml sesame oil
- 10 ml rice vinegar
- 1 tsp soy sauce
- 1 tsp agave syrup
- 1 tbsp lime juice
- 1 tsp sashimi
- 1 can drained white beans
- 1/3 cucumber
- 15 leaves of lettuce
- 10 cherry or plum tomatoes
- 4 tbsp miso dressing
- Mix all the ingredients for the dressing in a bowl until you get a smooth paste.
- In a bigger bowl mix white beans, chopped cucumber, chopped lettuce and the tomatoes cut in quarters. Season with the miso dressing and serve.
- This salad dressing in terrific with beans, but can be used with chicken and prawns based salads.